Last week I told you about gaining two certifications towards becoming a life coach. As you can see, not only did I set a goal, I used what I learned from boundaries to help me achieve it. If you’re like most of my readers, you may be wondering what REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioral Techniques) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Techniques) signify.
REBT helps people deal with irrational beliefs by taking an action-oriented approach. For example: the “Yet” analogy. Our brains are powerful and their sole job is to protect us. For example, when we think or say “I am not good at” something, like a task or an action, our brains look to prove to us that we are in fact not good at it. Now add the word “YET. ”
“I am not good at this YET!” Adding this one simple word makes our brains look for ways to help us. Next year I will share with you even more ways on how I continue to learn and grow. It starts with changing our “stinkin thinkin”!
CBT distinguishes the difference between imagining what you can do, and actually doing it. The brain does not know the difference between real vs. imagination. Take the example of shooting basketballs. One person imagines making baskets. They picture the shot over and over again in their minds before they actually start to practice the shot. The other person doesn’t spend time imagining it. He or she finds a court and simply shoots basketballs over and over again.
The one who imagines making baskets before practicing has a head start because mentally they have already experienced success. This is important because what we imagine and visualize has an impact on our brains. It creates real outcomes.
For those of us who don’t play a sport, think about other actions like public speaking or having a difficult conversation. Picture what it would look and sound like in your head first, then put what you picture into practice with a trusted friend or mentor.
Both scenarios are lessons I have learned and have practiced for many years by trial and error. Starting in 2022, I will share what I have done to progress personally – and how this has helped me to grow my professional life.
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