Can We Trust Even When Life Feels Scary?

I used to think that if I planned well enough, I could keep my life safe and steady. I thought being in control was the same as being happy. Life doesn’t always follow our plans. Lately, my world has felt like a storm. Between the deaths of five people, my son’s transition after prison, and my sister’s diagnosis with breast cancer, the ground has felt very shaky. I’ve learned that when the world is chaotic, I can’t control what happens outside. Instead, I am continuing on my journey as the “architect” of my own heart.

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When things feel overwhelming, we often find ourselves in a knot of Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions (T.E.A.). Our thoughts try to anticipate the “what-ifs,” emotions feel heavy, and actions become frantic as we try to fix things we cannot control. Being an architect isn’t about stopping the storm. It’s about building a strong, safe house inside ourselves so we can stay standing while the wind blows. 

I can’t change a medical diagnosis or a legal situation; however, I can choose how I show up for myself and the people I love.

Trusting isn’t about knowing exactly how things will turn out. It’s about knowing that I have the strength to handle whatever happens next. It’s about being kind to myself, setting boundaries that protect my heart, and finding peace in the middle of the mess.

It is why I wrote my 4-week course.  If you are going through a hard season and feel like you’re losing your footing, I want to help. My T.E.A. Course is a place to learn to untangle our thoughts, emotions, and actions to find your calm again. I’d love for you to join the healing journey.

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You’ll recall how my corporate job supervisor suggested I become the “office Avon rep.” Like you, I thought this included people in the office already ordering on a regular basis. Not so!

As it turns out, the only person buying Avon was that supervisor – leaving me with two customers; my supervisor and myself! Furthermore, no selling was allowed during work hours between 7:30 and 4:30. I had to find time and make a commitment to work the business. I decided to do this three days every week, which meant two days during the week before 7:30 and after 4:30, and all day Saturday.    

Every time my supervisor put in an order, I came in a half-hour early to collect. I also choose to do this on payday. (In those days, you didn’t pay for your order until you received it.) I put her order on her desk for everyone to see (to build some curiosity) and started to get some interest from other workers. But it would not build income fast enough.

This is where Sylvia and Barb came in. They saw something in me. Sylvia, who was actually an employee of Avon, worked with me in the “field.” This meant building business while taking care of errands. Everywhere we went, Sylvia would approach women and simply ask them “When was the last time you saw an Avon brochure?”

Yes, it’s bold and one time we did get asked to leave a Wal-Mart when another customer complained. Sylvia wasn’t discouraged. In fact, she felt if she didn’t talk to people at every opportunity, she wasn’t doing her job.

I’m not going to tell you this was easy to do. It takes practice and Sylvia did it so well that it seemed like a natural question. I realized this was something I would have to do, and I did. Since that time, I have created other approaches which I’ll detail in the next blog.

Barb’s help was of a different nature. As an established independent rep and a mentor, when someone inquired about buying Avon or becoming a rep, she would assign them to one of the people on her team. (She passed my inquiry to Toni who never followed up after the first contact.) That lack of follow-up may have led to Toni slipping off of Barbara’s list. It also meant more opportunities for me.

For example, after working my full-time job plus Avon for a while, I was ready for a weekend off. My husband at the time (Beau) and I decided to go to the sand dunes for a weekend of riding. Before we left, Barb called with three leads. I told her where we were going and I would follow up when we got back. That’s when she asked me the ‘what if’ question.

“What if you could get paid while you were on vacation?”

Leads are precious and urgency is critical. As Barb pointed out, I could spend 15 minutes out of my weekend to make the initial contacts before they cooled off. She was right. That one question made me look at my business differently. Not only could that 15 minutes turn into more income, it showed Barb how serious I was. And this would turn into more leads down the road. 

What’s important is that getting started took a lot of effort and required a commitment. Sylvia and Barb saw this and were willing to work with me. By example and ideas, they helped me earn a steady income. In the next blog, I’ll share more ideas and actions and how they played into bringing in more income.

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