Can We Trust Even When Life Feels Scary?

I used to think that if I planned well enough, I could keep my life safe and steady. I thought being in control was the same as being happy. Life doesn’t always follow our plans. Lately, my world has felt like a storm. Between the deaths of five people, my son’s transition after prison, and my sister’s diagnosis with breast cancer, the ground has felt very shaky. I’ve learned that when the world is chaotic, I can’t control what happens outside. Instead, I am continuing on my journey as the “architect” of my own heart.

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When things feel overwhelming, we often find ourselves in a knot of Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions (T.E.A.). Our thoughts try to anticipate the “what-ifs,” emotions feel heavy, and actions become frantic as we try to fix things we cannot control. Being an architect isn’t about stopping the storm. It’s about building a strong, safe house inside ourselves so we can stay standing while the wind blows. 

I can’t change a medical diagnosis or a legal situation; however, I can choose how I show up for myself and the people I love.

Trusting isn’t about knowing exactly how things will turn out. It’s about knowing that I have the strength to handle whatever happens next. It’s about being kind to myself, setting boundaries that protect my heart, and finding peace in the middle of the mess.

It is why I wrote my 4-week course.  If you are going through a hard season and feel like you’re losing your footing, I want to help. My T.E.A. Course is a place to learn to untangle our thoughts, emotions, and actions to find your calm again. I’d love for you to join the healing journey.

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Last month I celebrated my 55th birthday…and shared how turning struggle into strength makes me feel younger now than I did at 21. Before I go any further, let me ask you this:


How old are you?


How old do you actually feel?


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Maybe you feel older…or younger than the age on your birth certificate. Either way, pretty much everyone feels like time goes by too quickly. And it does. Yet the issue is not time. It’s about being aware of how you’re using your time. Too often we set goals and become so focused on the end result, we “lose” time because we aren’t aware of the journey. Plus – we try to control everything – which is something I’ll address in more detail next month.


For now, how much of your time are you consciously living? Is your daily life as fulfilling as you’d like it to be? Do the days speed by too quickly?


There’s no better time than now to reflect on how you are living each day. Chances are, like most people, you focus on reaching your goals without giving much thought about the journey.
This is why I created TEA. I spent years learning about how my Thoughts guide my Emotions that influence my Actions. As a result, I live more fully each day…and needed to share this with others. I created TEA to provide a good start for anyone who wants to live a fuller life.


Understand that it takes time to become the Best and Beautiful you that you were created to be. In fact, experts suggest it takes 10 years to succeed. Don’t let that discourage you! Instead of being impatient to change, be aware of how you are changing; and relish the time that it takes. When you choose to use each day as a life well-lived, you’ll celebrate reaching your goals even more.


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