Can We Trust Even When Life Feels Scary?

I used to think that if I planned well enough, I could keep my life safe and steady. I thought being in control was the same as being happy. Life doesn’t always follow our plans. Lately, my world has felt like a storm. Between the deaths of five people, my son’s transition after prison, and my sister’s diagnosis with breast cancer, the ground has felt very shaky. I’ve learned that when the world is chaotic, I can’t control what happens outside. Instead, I am continuing on my journey as the “architect” of my own heart.

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When things feel overwhelming, we often find ourselves in a knot of Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions (T.E.A.). Our thoughts try to anticipate the “what-ifs,” emotions feel heavy, and actions become frantic as we try to fix things we cannot control. Being an architect isn’t about stopping the storm. It’s about building a strong, safe house inside ourselves so we can stay standing while the wind blows. 

I can’t change a medical diagnosis or a legal situation; however, I can choose how I show up for myself and the people I love.

Trusting isn’t about knowing exactly how things will turn out. It’s about knowing that I have the strength to handle whatever happens next. It’s about being kind to myself, setting boundaries that protect my heart, and finding peace in the middle of the mess.

It is why I wrote my 4-week course.  If you are going through a hard season and feel like you’re losing your footing, I want to help. My T.E.A. Course is a place to learn to untangle our thoughts, emotions, and actions to find your calm again. I’d love for you to join the healing journey.

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“How do you feel about your weight?”


Back in March, I took a different approach to building my business by putting my best face forward.  From there I addressed the importance of inside beauty; and used quitting smoking as an example. Changing a bad habit requires dealing with hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Today we’re going to go a step further by addressing the question – “what is your best weight?”


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It’s more than simply losing pounds. Reducing excess weight is still a good goal, but not at the expense of sacrificing our health.  These days I think we’re getting a better understanding of what constitutes a “healthy” weight.


In January of 2020, I was diagnosed as being pre-diabetic. It served as a Red Flag to do something about my sugar intake, as well as my weight. In working with a nutritionist, I realized I had no boundaries with food. This meant I had no control – which is why I was able to eat a gallon of ice cream in one sitting. My relationship with food was toxic. I also needed to move more. Like so many, I joined a gym…only to waste my money because it was too easy not to go!


I am the girl who will spend $10-$30 a month for a gym membership and go maybe once a month.  Then Covid chaos hit, places like gyms, spas, and other health-oriented businesses were shut down, only to make weight gain even easier. However, I met two women who did the opposite. They introduced me to BeachBody – a home workout program that includes one meal replacement a day.  Working out in my home for about 30 minutes for less than the cost of a gym membership?? Yes please!!! This is not a “get-thin” program, and it’s important to remember that being too thin is not the best goal either.


The key is to find a healthy balance. I could state a goal of losing “X” number of pounds; or reaching a certain clothes size. Be sure to do what works best for you. Personally, I don’t have a scale and I’m not looking to purchase a whole new wardrobe.  I want to improve my health. I had to identify what triggered the feeling – that created the attitude – then lead to the negative behavior working against my health.  My problem was boredom. It’s my personal enemy and I had to learn how to listen to my body. Now when the desire to eat happens, I take the time to decide if it’s my mouth – or my stomach that’s hungry. Differentiating between the two keeps me from eating more because it’s almost always my mouth directing the behavior!


And when it comes to dining out, I learned to mentally divide my plate and take half of the meal home. I will even ask for a “to go” container at the time my food is delivered and box it immediately to remove temptation.  It’s really become easy to save that second half for later.


It’s not about managing our weight, it’s about personal management. We need to manage ourselves and I’m managing myself by nourishing my body the way my skincare products nourish my skin. Changing my diet and adding exercise gives me more control over my body. What’s fun is how people are noticing!
This is not magic.


I often refer to the process as “eating the elephant one bite at a time.” I choose a step and practice it until it becomes natural.  This is also how I became cigarette, alcohol, and drug free. And notice the word FREE. Dealing with the hurts, habits, and hang-ups helps you manage yourself and exercise your greatest freedom.


It makes you more comfortable within yourself and gives you more confidence when you approach potential customers – or anyone you talk to for whatever reason. As always, call or text me at 480-684-2866. You can also contact me here to either share your successes, get more details on my BeachBody journey, or how to change your approach to bring out the best and beautiful you!

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