Can We Trust Even When Life Feels Scary?

I used to think that if I planned well enough, I could keep my life safe and steady. I thought being in control was the same as being happy. Life doesn’t always follow our plans. Lately, my world has felt like a storm. Between the deaths of five people, my son’s transition after prison, and my sister’s diagnosis with breast cancer, the ground has felt very shaky. I’ve learned that when the world is chaotic, I can’t control what happens outside. Instead, I am continuing on my journey as the “architect” of my own heart.

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When things feel overwhelming, we often find ourselves in a knot of Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions (T.E.A.). Our thoughts try to anticipate the “what-ifs,” emotions feel heavy, and actions become frantic as we try to fix things we cannot control. Being an architect isn’t about stopping the storm. It’s about building a strong, safe house inside ourselves so we can stay standing while the wind blows. 

I can’t change a medical diagnosis or a legal situation; however, I can choose how I show up for myself and the people I love.

Trusting isn’t about knowing exactly how things will turn out. It’s about knowing that I have the strength to handle whatever happens next. It’s about being kind to myself, setting boundaries that protect my heart, and finding peace in the middle of the mess.

It is why I wrote my 4-week course.  If you are going through a hard season and feel like you’re losing your footing, I want to help. My T.E.A. Course is a place to learn to untangle our thoughts, emotions, and actions to find your calm again. I’d love for you to join the healing journey.

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Overall, life was going in a positive direction. Scott and I were married, my Avon business was going well, and Central Christian was now a part of our lives. Moving into the home of my dreams seemed to complete the upswing my life was taking. Yet the next few years didn’t progress as I would have expected.


As I mentioned before, the dream home was not what I had hoped for. In spite of having a home warranty, so many things that went wrong were not covered. That was the financial part.


The emotional part came from my son Bryan, who I first introduced in February 2021. If you have been following my blogs, you already know how heartbreaking and stormy having an addicted child is. Bryan is my son with my first husband, James. When I was married to my second husband Beau, Bryan spent most of his time with his dad. Even when Scott and I got back together, Bryan lived with his dad.


When James died, even though we knew Bryan was addicted to drugs, we let him live with us.   Raising children is challenging enough. Having an addicted child and struggling with how to help is a nightmare.  I understand that as a parent, our natural desire with our kids is to try to protect them. We tend to do more harm than good and especially when it comes to children with addictions, we are enabling instead of empowering them.


Between Bryan and the money pit house, Scott and I knew we had to make some hard decisions. We both prayed about it, and we believed we heard what we needed to do as I was getting ready to leave for my annual Avon convention. Before I left, we decided that when I returned, we would know exactly what to do.


And we did. First was to sell the home and that was hard enough. Making the decision about Bryan was much more difficult. If you want to know what happened, you can read about it in my story.
For the past few months, I’ve shared how precarious my life was. Even with moving in a positive direction, there were still unforeseen hurdles to overcome.  Next month and in December we’ll take a break from this journey and continue it after the first of the year.


For now, the holiday season is almost here! I have a ton of exciting ideas to help you navigate this often stressful time that should instead be full of celebration. More than just gift ideas, I’ll share what’s going on in the world of entrepreneurship.


In the meantime, it’s important for you to understand that what you have experienced in life is yours alone and it’s what makes you unique.  Not all decisions work out as expected, and that’s OK. If you or anyone you know is in a stall or slipping backwards, call or text me at 480-684-2866. You can also contact me here. It’s amazing how talking things out can bring unexpected solutions.

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